Older. Wiser. Happier

Its was recently my birthday back in October and well, I have to be honest, back when I was in my 20's just thinking about my 30’s would give me the hiiibigibies, I remember saying to myself “Oh my God I'm so old…But instead today I can say I am here at 36 years old, a little excited.

As I am writing this post, I realized that it is more than OK that a younger me thought it would be the end of my life (I was very dramatic) whenever the topic about aging came up especially because I was the oldest of my “girl Gang” and add to that the only one who had children (pride and Joy face), now I am ok with that, just looking back at my life, I came to realize that it almost feels like it's just the beginning.

When I was in my late teens early 20’s I can't remember a time where I was truly happy, At least not this content and excited with what's to come. At 17 years old I become a mother of two, most of the time, if not all my time was consumed by my daughters, school, and life, becoming a mother at such a young age was everything to me, that's all I cared about, no parties no friends, As my children and I got older and my children became more independent my focus started shifting little by little in other things like myself, but I still didn't know what I wanted to do with my life, at the age of 24 all I ever had been learning was to try and be the best mother I could.

It didn't come to me until I was 25 I got a good job which I learned so much from, it opened doors to so many other things that I didn't know I enjoyed doing, I also found love, someone whom I could be myself and share my life with and be great partner to raise my children.

In conclusion “ aging” is not that bad, as the years pass it gets better and better, you see the colors more vibrant, the aromas are more intense, your touch is more gentle, you hear things you think you've never heard before but most importantly. You learn to be grateful for what you have, how to love unconditionally and be happy no matter what life throws at you.

Here's what I've learned on this 36-year long ride so far...

Book i'm reading: Gentlewoman Etiquette for a lady, from a Gentleman by Enitan o Bereola

No. 1 THERE'S NO RUSH

The biggest lesson I've learned out of all my life is that there is no rush, the sun will rise, and set every day with or without you Whatever it is you are waiting for, it will come to you when you least expected, but don't miss the signs, Trust your gut

No. 2 RAINBOWS & PONIES

You probably knew this already but I'll remind you, it will not be easy, this is not a fairy tale and things can and will go wrong sometimes, nothing will ever be perfect but, hey it has taken you here, but when you look back over the years and see how you've grown as a person and what you have achieved. It's pretty damn awesome.

No. 3 HAPPINESS CANNOT BE BOUGHT

Happiness is definitely a choice, no one is going to make you happy, you have to take care of that on your own, I don't mean that on with regards to mental health, I am talking about a general commitment to life, the normal every day, with social media nowadays we sometimes think that we should be doing what others are, I say it because it happened to me at one point, I felt like I had to be traveling a million times a month attending parties or eating at expensive restaurants when in reality I am living my best life, I love being home with my family, most of my Friday nights consist of watching Disney movies with my daughters and sisters, happiness Opening the door of my apartment and smelling that fresh apple cinnamon Glade Plug in, watching my husband eat the food I cook like he has never eaten before, lol, my dog Nani she is the cutest, me wearing comfy clothes shopping online lol in bed, snuggling under my blankets reading a good book, dancing at home with the love of my life to the music we love or just having “game night” with closest friends, that's where I live my best life.

No. 4 OLDER & WISER

It is clear to me now that every year is a step forward, and as long as I keep learning with every life's lesson I am growing and evolving into a better version of myself and whatever I am doing I will do it better next time knowing that the first time I tried my best, and whatever you do, don't lose that love for life you wake up with every day.

Welcome, 36. Happy Birthday to me!!! And Happy Holidays

Xo

Eliby